grroming for boys

how do you teach a boy about grooming, washing his hands and face, wearing a clean T shirt, brushing his teeth and hair, taking a bath...

every day i get pepe ready for bed, there are piles of sand coming out of each shoe and sock. shirt is colored with food, dirt, and i can guess what activities he was involved in at school. face is black, legs are black, hands are blocker than black.

changing him is hell. he does not care for anything except playing. he is getting better about washing his hands before meals, but everything else is a struggle.

will it always be? should i blame chris and his environmental concerns for this? should i blame me for not being stricter about these things earlier on? this is starting to trouble me more and more and so i will make it our new little project -just like mica murdarica (one of pepe's favs) he will become pepe the clean boy.